Why do women feel as if they need their man?

One of my best friends in the world- we will name her Kara for privacy reasons, just got dumped. Now Kara had a terrible child hood we wont get into it but it is one that I truly respect how strong she is and how she made it through it and is trying to better her life snc she was on her own at 16. It’s known that most girls who grow up without a father figure or a piece of shit father figure like Kara will usually want a father figure of a boyfriend. And that what this man was to her. He’s a very nice man, and really does have best intentions with her and truly cares for her. However Kara wants and needed a man who basically controls her (not in a bad way mind you this was relatively healthy) but like I said he just dumped her and she is in hysterics, she’s in total panic attack mode, doesn’t know what to do, feels as if life is over ect. I love Kara to death and would never ever want anything to happen to her so of course I’m leaving work as early as I can to be with her.

But why is it so many girl/women feel it is their man who makes them whole. That after they get broken up with they feel as if life can’t go on, and that they are nothing without that man in their life’s. I know that it is probably much easier for me to say because I was raised by amazing parents who taught me to be independent and strong and my own person so it is easy for me to be independent but I know for some girls like Kara its impossible.

I wish I knew a way to make her see that our life; her life doesn’t need a man to control it. That it’s much better to be our own person, true to ourselves and in control of our own lives. That we can’t go through life pleasing everyone else, pretending to be someone were not because that’s what will make people like us. We need to be strong and ourselves more than anything and only then will are we able to fine TRUE happiness. Again I know I ramble but that’s what blogs are for right? It just kills me that Kara can’t see how amazing she is, how strong, intelligent and what a great person she is and that she doesn’t need anyone to tell her how to run her life. I don’t know how to teach her all I just said in just the few hours I will be with her tonight but I hope and pray that she will see this and she will learn to be herself, do things for her, live a little, live a REAL life, not one controlled by friends, boyfriends ect.

Break ups happen everyday to millions of diffrent people for a million diffrent reasons. We meet people through life and they come and go sometimes we are surrounded by people and sometimes we are alone but what we need to teach ourselves and our daughters is to have a solid foundation of self. To know that even when shit hits the fan and everything in our seemingly perfect little world changes that we can always rely on ourselves to get us through because you wont always have people to help you through things. *sigh* Oh my Kara, I love you and I know you will get through this an even stronger person. No man, no PERSON is worth all this pain and misery.