Why does it take 30mins to get married but a year, thousands of dollars and too many tears to get a divorce?

I really think they should have a form that just says "do you want a divorce, please check yes or no" send it in and bam, you are divorced. all this other stuff is insane. I guess it has to be this way when there is a child involved.

I have to call my lawyer back today. Yesterday Scott finally crossed the line and I had to call my attorney to change me paper work to Full Custody. That really sucks. I never ever wanted this to happen. But his Drinking and anger..RAGE problems have become way to out of hand. I don’t feel the need to go into details because i just went over it 300 times with my attorney, her paralegal and of course my mother, but he is letting the alcohol and anger cloud his judgment and parenting skills. He has put Kendra in so many bad situations, so many potentially dangerous spots that i just cant have it anymore. I can’t sit at home knowing he’s drinking and driving with MY baby in the car. There has been 2 times where I pick her up from his house (he is obviously smashed) after work and he calls a bit later to ask when I’m picking Ken up. If he couldn’t even remember I picked her up, doesn’t even notice she is gone who know what else could have happened. Its one thing to drink, by all means, drink up. but do it responsibly ESP when your daughter is in the house! I’m infuriated at this last stunt he pulled I don’t even want to get into that one. Really, this will help him as well, this will force him to get the help he needs and get back to being the great father he once was. and this will be way more stable for Kendra. It breaks my heart when she cries because she doesn’t want to go to daddy’s. i know they both love each other very much and it kills me that all i can do (after a year of trying my hardest to help him) is stand back and watch him hit rock bottom and make sure he doesn’t drag Kendra down with him.

This sucks. I wish it were different. But that’s life. Shit happens and we have to do what we can with it. My job as a mother is to protect my baby at all costs even if it means from someone she loves the most.

Me having full custody will in no way mean that Scott cant see her. I want them to spend as much time together as possible, like i said they are each other best friends I would never dream of splitting that, I want him so see her as much as he does now..but me getting full physical custody means that its on my terms, If i feel the situation is unsafe, he’s drunk, he’s too hung over, he’s too angry (he gets crazy when he is angry) That i can say no Scott, this is not a good situation for Kendra.

This is such a hard thing for me to do. But I am so thankful Hec is by my side, holding me up, wiping my tears being my best friend and rock through this whole thing. He and Kendra are amazing together. I don’t know what i would do without him right now. Or my mother who has also been by my side this whole time.
I just want this battle to be over and every one to be safe, happy and a better person already!